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Their Non-Verbal’s

My Felt Sense and/or Non-Verbal Use of Self

Hi angel. How are you doing today?

I’m good, thank you. And you?

Yeah, I’m good. Thank you. Before starting our conversation, I just wanted to make sure that you know that this is a safe space. We can talk about your feelings and everything. This will be the conversation between us will be confidential. Okay. But if, uh, I feel like you’re at some risk of harming yourself or harming other people around you, I would, uh, I won’t. I’ll be letting, uh, my supervisor know about this, and I, as you signed the confidentiality paper, uh, I’m not like, I’m just confirming that you are aware of the, uh, confidentiality that you have pled through. Yeah. And are you agreeing to continue this conversation?

Siting firmly leaning a little towards me and looking directly into my eyes.

I was directly at her with nervousness and making mistakes while speaking.

Yeah. And are you agreeing to continue this conversation?

So, angel, what would you like to talk about today?

Um, it’s, uh, from my workplace.

Okay.

Okay. Uh, I used to know a resident who I had worked for, like, I’ve been working in HK for three years now.

Okay.

She looked away with and give it a thought for a second before speaking.

I was nodding and giving one-word answers as I was listening to her.

So, you know how I will be close with the residents in three years of like, I mean, time.

Yeah.

And of course, in aged care we have like old people and she, it’s a, it’s of course a lady, as I mentioned, Shane, so, uh, I really. I really used to like her. She was like really close to me. I used to do literally everything for her, and she only let me do her stuff too, and she wouldn’t let any other stuff to do her case, you know, like stubborn old people.

She was looking away multiple times in between the conversation.

I was nodding as listening to her and giving one-word answers to let her know that I am here for her.

Yeah.

How they are. So, like after I was so like confused in the first year because I don’t know why she wanted me to do her stuff. Her case and stuff like that. You know, the normal hygiene stuff and feeding, she’s of course a fit because she’s bedridden.

She started smiling when talking about the time she spend with her.

Leaning towards her and responding with one-word answers and nodding to make her feel like someone is here to understand or listen to her.

Oh, okay. So was she better than when you started there.

No.

Okay.

Not yet. I mean, the last, uh, first when I started, she was able to walk, but still we need to assist her.

Smiling while talking about her.

Smiling as I felt a happy presence while was talking.

Okay.

That her last few days was so bad. So after the first year and during the second year, I started to like her love, like she started to make a really different connection. Connection or a space in my heart.

I see.

Smile started fading

Nodding, giving one-word answers.

Because I think maybe I used to have a grandmother back home, like my father’s mother, and I lost her like three years back.

Okay. I’m sorry for you.

Teary eyes and looking away most of the time.

Started feeling a sadness while talking about her grandmother.

That’s all right. Thank you. So I always, maybe because that I see my grandmother in her place, so I was able to look after and love her a lot Then. not staff for else.

So can I ask you something like, as you were mentioning like, uh, past tenses, I would like to discuss from, is she die? Like dead or she die?

Yeah. Yeah, she’s no more.

Smiling while taking about the connection

Felt sad for her inside.

Okay.

She passed away in like three weeks before.

Okay. Oh, sorry.

She was like so, so bad. She was in hospital for a month. Then they said they don’t have not much to do about her. She was really getting worse with her health conditions and stuff, so her family was, Family requested the hospital to send her back to the our facility so she can have her last days with the ones she loved. Because in hospital units it’s quite busy and has and bale every time. So it’s better she come back to the aged care and have a good rest or happy endings during her last few days.

okay.

Sad with teary eyes.

I felt a huge pain for her loss.

So I feel like it was like a destiny to look after her. So I mean, sorry, look after her.

Okay.

Happy as she knew that she was there for her.

Felt her happiness.

For her last few days. And her family was happy too, because they were happy to see someone, she’s happy to, to look after her.

Yeah.

So yeah, it was so, so she passed away like three weeks before and I was so like throw out.

Okay

I don’t know. Was not able to go to work for a week after that. I feel so. I don’t know. I feel, I felt like I lost someone from my own family.

Okay

Smiling by hiding her sadness.

Felt sad and sorry for her.

Yeah. I told my friends that about my work, friends about it, and they tried to comfort me and stuff like that. But still, you know, there’s some space that left out from my heart. Heart and we can’t fill it up with something. And I still, when I, but I started going back to work, then I still can’t find peace there. I, um, I, I asked my management people to move me from that particular meeting where I used to look after her, where she used to stay. So they said they will try their best to move me around. So I’m not, I’m not feeling that bad around when I’m move there.

Sadness and change in voice

I felt sad thinking about what she was going through.